Lately, I’ve been having dreams about Michael B. Jordan. Great dreams. Not inappropriate dreams for those of you trying to take it there!
The dreams have been kind of like Nicholas Sparks meets Disney. Think The Notebook meets Cinderella and then sprinkle on a huge heap of 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 and add in some Song of Solomon. If you don’t understand the last part of my reference hop in your Bible and catch up.
At first I thought (more like desperately hoped) God was telling me that Michael B. Jordan and I were destined to be together. A few prayers for deeper understanding quickly clarified things for me. Sadly, Michael B. Jordan will probably never experience how amazing I am as a girlfriend, fiance, and wife. His loss.
So why Michael B. Jordan and what do the dreams mean? Well, Michael B. Jordan is my celebrity crush and my "dream guy" both figuratively and now literally. For whatever reason I have watched him as an actor and a man living his everyday life and I've discerned things about his character and mindset that are quite appealing to me. He possesses this blend of confidence and humility, this mix of social consciousness and intelligence, this kindness and joy, this sensitivity and compassion... don't ask how I have picked all of this up based solely on television and film characters, press interviews and articles, and social media. The spirit of discernment is one of my gifts, so I just know these things. So as I've discerned, he's a man of great character and it's evident he was raised with some of the fundamental values that I cherish. Also, the guy looks incredible! That smile. Those dimples. And we all saw how he looked in Blank Panther and Creed so, that is that. That being said, God used the "man of my dreams" to reveal to me what Godly pursuit is going to look like and feel like, and ladies this revelation isn't just for me.
In my dreams, Michael B. Jordan was the perfect gentleman. He pursued me fiercely and loved me deeply. He was expressive and consistent. He was considerate and compassionate. Simply put, he was the physical expression of God's love for me. Take 1 Corinthians 13: 4 - 7 and replace the word love with Michael B. Jordan, and there you have it. Everything about him, from the way he spoke to me to the way he looked at me to the way he treated me, reinforced what God said about me in His word. I knew I was loved. I knew I was cherished. I knew I had value. I knew I had purpose. He reaffirmed who God called me to be. That's how I knew he was the one.... that's also why it was so hard to cope when I woke up and realized it was just a dream.
Here's the thing ladies, the man I desire as a spouse and a father to my son and future children is not an unattainable fairy tale. The man you desire to settle down with and build a family with is not a myth. He's a specially crafted exclusively designed man that God has set aside just for you. Did you catch that- set aside just for you. You don't have to scheme to get him. You don't have to convince him to pursue you. You don't have to do anything extra to catch his eye. You don't need to take him from someone else. He has been assigned to you and he will be led by the Holy Spirit in due season to pursue you. He will pursue you with intention and clarity. You won't have to wonder how he feels or what he's thinking because he'll let you know. He will pursue you consistently. There won't be any ghost periods where you're left waiting and wondering what happened and what's next. He'll know and you'll know.
The man God has for you won't make you question your worth. He won't ask you to compromise your values. He won't expect you to dim down so he can shine. He won't allow you to slow down so he can catch up. He'll lead you closer to God and cheer you on as you walk in your calling. He'll encourage you and inspire you. He will make you want to be your best self and he will constantly be striving to be at his best.
Ladies, that man is worth the wait. I know it's hard to hold onto faith when nothing in your life seems to suggest a relationship or marriage is in your near future. I know it's hard not to compare when everyone around you seems to be dating and getting engaged and getting married. I know it's hard to focus on your current call to singleness when your heart desires what you know is your future call to be a wife. But I implore you, don't get weary in well-doing.
God knows the desires of your heart and He will honor them if you continue to honor Him with your life right here, right now. Just as God is hand-crafting your mate for you, he's hand-crafting you for your mate. There are things being poured into you in this season that will serve your future spouse and your future marriage well. There are things being pulled out of you in this season that will serve your future spouse and your future marriage well.
Let the Master, God, work. God knows what He is doing. Trust that the God who loved you enough to die on a cross for your sins, loves you enough to ensure your future husband is properly equipped to lead and guide your family. Trust that the God who knows you so well that He knows the number of hairs on your head, knows you enough to know what you need and when you need it. Remember to trust in the Lord with all your heart; lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your path straight. - Proverbs 3:5-6
God's ways are not our way, and I am thankful for that because His ways are better. I find myself at a place where I don't mind waiting on God's best for me because I know His best is going to blow my mind. I'd rather wait for Mr. Right than settle for Mr. Okay out of pure selfishness and impatience. I'd rather God send His best than ask Him to bless my mess. So I will keep praying, keeping believing, keep growing, keep maturing, keep learning, and keep doing what God has called me to do right here, right now. I am a treasure waiting to be unearthed by the man God sends to find me. If that man happens to be a tall, dark-skinned, dimple-faced actor named Michael, well I wouldn't object to that. But if it's not him I know the man God will send will be better than every idealized vision of Michael B. Jordan I've ever had.
Stay encouraged ladies! Your dream man is coming!